I have updated my reference policy.

  • I will give you a reference for 6 months after we meet.  After that, we should meet again or you should use a more recent reference, or be screened via other means.
  • I will give you a reference for the same amount of times we have met (e.g., we met twice, 2 references).  Please don’t use me more than that.  You obviously have more recently references.

I understand that references can be a big part of screening for some ladies but I can no longer spend 1/4 of my time in my inbox returning reference requests from gentlemen I haven’t seen in a year or longer.  I will keep that privilege for those who continue to visit with me.